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Guide To Maintaining BDSM Relationships

Such relations that are only a sort of sexual pleasure may also at times lead to following of certain rules and guidelines. Though the BDSM only involves enjoyment of either party and pain to another but at the same time there are certain legal rules that both of them needs to abide by in order to undergo a safe process. A quick view of that is only provided in the paragraph below.

The actions of dominations and submission include a variety of tasks being performed. In such actions one has the control on the other. Physical activities play a major role for the task. However it does not needs that while performing physical tasks there had to be physical contact between the two persons in BDSM behavioral traits.

There are certain names which are being assigned to the persons involved such as the dominant is referred to as the tops where as the submissive persons are referred to as the bottoms. Surprisingly they are also assigned with nicknames which are differentiated on the basis of male and female. The males are called as doms where as the females are called the dommens. There are also some females who play only for money they are known as dominatrix.

The levels of intensity needs the couple to follows some of the most required practices which along with the involving dominance and submission also includes a  range from the dominant ordering their “ slave ” around and ‘ forcing ’ them to perform certain activities, such as tied in the air, blindfolded, and whipped.

The distress or humiliation often includes the use of furniture or toilets, corporal punishment and may be forced depending on what the couple desires are. D and S relationships may also involve the degradation of the submissive partner where they may be treated as babies, dogs, or slaves, while the males might be subjected feminization. Sadism and masochism often goes hand-in-hand with domination and submission; dominant partners are known as sadists, and submissive are often masochists. Practices of bondage and discipline apply to satisfaction of any one of them. Sadists enjoy seeing their partners in pain or discomfort while masochists gain experience through the inflicted pain or discomfort.

However, there are many who refer to themselves as ‘switches ’. Whether in a romantic or sexual partnership, BDSM community always puts pressure on providing pleasure to any one of the party. The vast numbers of people who practice it following safe and legal measure are done unto the others. The use of safer language has become a very common practice whether be it in an emotionally or physically aroused situation. One may also make use of words that are generally used by people while sex to express feelings of pain or pleasure.

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Do I have a right to sexual dominance?

Wow, just followed a friend to a post, which (as an aside) stated ‘a dom using BDSM for sexual gain has no right being a Dom’… Now I know BDSM isn’t always about sex, but are we at the point where sex is seen as a bad thing?

Personally, when I perform acts that could be considered BDSM in a non-professional setting and without specificly non-sexual guidelines, I try to turn my partner on. In fact I still do even in a professional setting, though in that case I don’t expect the effort to be reciprocated. If said partner is not previously a sexual partner this can often lead to sexual ‘gains’ (although I don’t generally think about sex in terms of gaining/losing, and would hope they get at least as much from the situation as I do)

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So it would seem at least one viewpoint (and the OP did say it was just her point of view) would consider I had no right to ‘be’ a ‘Dom’

To be fair I guess I never really refer to myself as a Dom anyway, except in professional situations or where it’s the most suitable tickbox, but quite a few others do refer to me that way, and I’m not sure I’m comfortable with having my right to the title revoked purely because BDSM is usually sexual for me.

Is this a common view – has the community come to a place where people feel BDSM should never be seductive?

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I support the OP’s right to her opinion of course, and to be clear it was a journal entry and this point was not the focus of the post, but it always makes me wonder when someone’s opinion is that I should have less rights. Maybe the comment was out of context and intended to refer specifically to the situation she described, but I’d be interested to hear whether anyone shares this view.

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Pregnant Sub! Who Decides?

If your sub got pregnant, would you want to be the sole decision maker about what to do?

This realistically comes down to consent. There is no ‘right way’ to do Ds, only what the people involved want to do.

If a woman in a 24/7 TPE relationship has agreed for her partner to have that much control over her life and decisions, then she has already excersized her right to make that decision. If she is ordered to do something she feels is wrong she can withdraw that consent.


Pictures by The Pain Files – Pregnant BDSM of Slave A

That said, I think any reasonable human beings would generally discuss something as serious and a baby, and certainly it would be pretty crazy for a Dom to make that kind of decision without talking to the woman involved and taking into account her feelings. At that point, then sure the Dominant partner can make the decision, if that is what the submissive wants to happen, which presumably in a full TPF relationsip would be the case.

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Subspace – A Female Perspective

Subspace – End of the BDSM play session? A female perspective by Andrea of The Pain Files & Shadow Slaves

Okies heres my 10 pence worth LOL, i space pretty easily depending on whats being done to me at the time, so yes if my Dominant stopped as soon as hit subsspace itd be all over in sometimes even as quick as 10 mins into play….

I like to play rough and yes sometimes a tad hard, which sends me straight into subspace, but i feel very content and safe in that anyways, im more than happy to be bought back out of it and sent back in it several times in a play IMHO, i think its gets intense the more spaced you are, well it ticks my boxes anyways LOL.

Saying that if your Dominant reads you well hell know when youve had enough, sometimes saying please stop and tears dont always mean the scene has to end, but spacing and tears are very very diffrent, luckily i have a Dominant who reads me and my reactions pretty damn well….

By Andrea of The Pain Files & Shadow Slaves

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Guide for new Doms and Subs entering the BDSM scene

A guide for new Doms and Subs entering the BDSM scene. Starting at the most important, and counting down.

10: There is no ‘true way’ and there are no rules… there is only what you want to experience and achieve. If others say you are doing it wrong, listen, decide whether you agree that their way is better for you and if not disregard it. Beware of anyone who makes blanket statements about what doms or subs ‘should’ or ‘must’ do, unless the behaviour is without the mutual consent of those involved.

9: Be in control of yourself. Be comfortable that what you are doing is right for you. Don’t do anything that makes you feel guilty or genuinely ashamed of yourself. Don’t do anything because you think you should or in the grip of strong negative emotions (ie; don’t play when angry or jealous). Don’t get involved because it’s fashionable.

8: Take things slowly. Do not be desperate. BDSM is just a form of relationship… if you play with someone at a party, or who you met once, it’s like a one night stand… they are not your Dom or sub. Do not try to do this with someone you wouldn’t be interested in as a partner in vanilla terms. If your Ds/SM isn’t sexual that can mean someone you wouldn’t consider a friend, but either way consider the person before the experience and don’t rush into any commitment just because the BDSM aspect fits.

7: Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! Be very very clear about hard limits and try not to miss any out. Be clear about you previous experience, and remember that anything can become a new hard limit at any time. If a limit is soft, explain your reservations to avoid it being pushed in the wrong way. Remember Doms have limits too! If something is making you unhappy talk about it. If you want something you are not getting, talk about it.

6: Be honest with your partner(s)! Like 100% honest. This is not something most people in society do or consider possible, but when you are handing over authority, taking authority, and potentially doing things that in normal society would be considered abuse, damaging or emotionally edgy you cannot operate by the rules of normal society. Broken trust will break everything. Just tell the truth – if your partner can’t handle the truth you need a different partner to pursue this lifestyle.

5: Be risk aware – and aware that everything we do in the lifestyle (and in fact in everyday life) carries a risk – even if you don’t do physical SM there is a big emotional risk in any power exchange. The fact that something is ‘unsafe’ is not a bar to doing it, but, as adults, you must be willing to take the risk; so educate yourself as to what those risks are. Just because a lot of other people do something does not make it safe, but equally just because a lot of scene people say something is unsafe does not mean it cannot be done with reasonable caution. Consider the worst that can happen, the likelihood of that happening, the consequences of that happening, and whether it is worth the risk to you to do it.

4: BDSM is not something that happens on the internet. The internet is a tool for communication and information. You can play mind games on the internet that can seem very intense, but online play is not real and a relationship of any kind with someone you have never met is something we used to call ‘being penpals’ and is often not at all what it seems when you do meet. There is no reason to become part of any public scene at all, but if you want to meet likeminded folk go to a local munch. Do not go in the hope of meeting a partner or finding someone to play with – just go to meet people and make friends – the rest will follow.

3: When meeting someone for the first time that you have contacted remotely via some scene group, you are not going to meet your new sub/Dom/Master – you are going to meet a hopefully like minded person. If you insist on playing at a first encounter remember to let someone know where you are, consider safe calls, and never forget bondage might seem to be the lighter end of BDSM but being tied up is the most dangerous position you can put yourself in with someone you don’t have complete trust of.

2: Pain is the body’s way of warning you of danger or damage. If something hurts (or you hurt your partner) be conscious of why and sure it’s under control.

1: Consider serious/long term commitments as you might consider a marriage. Collaring, for instance, means different things to different people, but if you see collaring as a serious Ds commitment, do not accept or offer a collar until you are certain this is the absolutely perfect partner for you. The same goes with consentual slavery. If you are collared and de-collared several times, or you are someone’s slave one week and with someone else the next you loose all credibility. Yes, collared and M/s relationships can fail the same as any other relationship can, but if you want them to mean anything at least be sure you want to commit seriously and long-term at the time you take on those terms, otherwise you will devalue the concept entirely and have nothing to give when you do mean it.

By Magick of Shadow Slaves and The Pain Files

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Koko Li – Asiatic Sado Maso Show

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Anal sex and blowjob in bondage

To be bound and abused by the two sadistic Masters with huge cocks was always her fantasy which did came true. However she didn’t expect rough anal sex and deep throat fucking in tight rope bondage at the same time.

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Slave bound with leather straps and roughly fucked

His huge cock penetrated her tight pussy and her whole body was trembling how deep it could go. Completely bound with leather straps and helpless, all she could do was to have one forced orgasm after another.

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Ass-to-mouth bondage sex

Uncomfortably bound with hemp rope in a strappado position, her ass was even tighter than usual. He fucked her roughly that it really hurt. Just as she thought it was over, he stuck his cock in her mouth and came all over her face. Waste no time and click on a photo above to see this humiliating ass-to-mouth action on video.