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How To Tell If I am a Masochist ?

Sex is perhaps the only basic instinct of the human beings that has managed to intrigue man through all the ages, since time immemorial through its multi-faceted nature that can surely be considered to be beyond the boundaries of understanding of most human beings. There are countless dispositions as far as sex is concerned and each individual tends to have his own tastes and preferences and many of the times, these are quite queer in nature. Though, sex is symbolized to be the most expressive and spontaneous of all the ways of exhibiting love, more often than not, individuals seem to have their own different expectations and methodologies to derive the optimum satisfaction out of the act of having sex and these are usually quite varying in nature, depending much on the individual’s personal nature, tastes and preferences.

In this respect, it may be mentioned that the term “masochist” may be aptly used to describe the nature of an individual, who tends to derive pleasure or gratification in sexual aspects, out of humiliation or ill- treatment, either physically or mentally though one’s own self or through another individual. More often than not, this condition is quite harmful than being useful, as, it can have a detrimental effect on the individual’s physique as well as the mind, to some extent, if the condition goes on uncontrolled.

There are quite a few classes of masochists depending upon their individual dispositions. On one hand, it may include people who derive sexual satisfaction from being insulted or through any other kind of pain mated out onto them, while on the other, it may also include certain sections of people who enjoy definite types of physical pain for the rush of the hormone endorphin within their bodies. This pain may often be quite intense and enough to inflict a sense of fear in any normal human being.

One of the multiple faces of masochism is definitely, sadomasochism. This usually involves the deriving of intense pleasure through the inflicting of pain on the body of the individual either through himself or through a different individual. It may also often take the form of mental torture. It may seem quite strange, but, masochists usually tend to derive bliss from a condition of intense inflicting of mental pain also. This trait of masochists definitely set them apart from any other normal human.

In the present days, the number of cases involving masochism is greatly on the rise, partly because of the hectic and unorganized lifestyle that most people lead nowadays and partly because of the myriad hues of human nature that is quite difficult to understand for a normal human.

It should however be remembered, being a masochist does not necessarily imply the exhibition of any abnormality on the part of the person. In fact, being a masochist is not at all a grave problem, as long as this trait does not interfere with the normal well- being of the person. It starts to cast its ill – effects only when this trait goes beyond the control of the individual and poses a great threat, in the form of a disease that slowly, but steadily mars an individual’s self- respect and hence begins to throw the individual’s life into jeopardy. In such scenario, it is always advisable on the part of the masochist to consult a psychologist who can aptly help him to get himself out of this grave situation through proper counseling.

It can thus be rightly remarked that it is not at all abnormal to be a masochist as long as the individual can indulge in proper self –evaluation and stay away from the things that can be detrimental to his existence.

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BDSM Movie Review – Brutality

Movie Title: Brutality
Released By: Shadow Slaves 2012
Starring: China & Magick

The movie Brutality from Shadow Slaves is not for the faint at heart. The slave girl China is in for a harsh and prolonged treatment in the dungeon as her master Magick subjects to a wide range of severe and extreme punishments. The intro of the movie Brutality is mainly about submission and humiliation of the english amateur slave girl, however the action soon turns extremely painful, dark and almost gore-ish. The highlights of the movie is an intense suspension bondage of the chubby slavegirl who receives one of the most intense upside down whipping punishments seen on film and taking her way into hellpain territory.

The action only get harder from there as China has her big tits needle tortured and skewered. The needles are used to nail her tits to a table, causing severe pain and restraining her from any movement. But it doesnt stop there. A stapler is used to force her mouth shot. This is true edge play and extreme bdsm as only real sadists and masochists would enjoy it. If youre a bit kinky and fancy a little bondage in the bedroom with your fluffy handcuffs, the movie Brutality is NOT for you. If on the other hand you love to see the edges of human sexuality and just how extreme some slave girls and masochist enjoy going, it doesnt get much better than this! It is pure sexual brutality and sadomasochism.

The technical quality of the movie is just about perfect with a full HD download option and crisp pictures of the sadomasochistic action. You will find this BDSM Movie at Shadow Slaves

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Guide To Maintaining BDSM Relationships

Such relations that are only a sort of sexual pleasure may also at times lead to following of certain rules and guidelines. Though the BDSM only involves enjoyment of either party and pain to another but at the same time there are certain legal rules that both of them needs to abide by in order to undergo a safe process. A quick view of that is only provided in the paragraph below.

The actions of dominations and submission include a variety of tasks being performed. In such actions one has the control on the other. Physical activities play a major role for the task. However it does not needs that while performing physical tasks there had to be physical contact between the two persons in BDSM behavioral traits.

There are certain names which are being assigned to the persons involved such as the dominant is referred to as the tops where as the submissive persons are referred to as the bottoms. Surprisingly they are also assigned with nicknames which are differentiated on the basis of male and female. The males are called as doms where as the females are called the dommens. There are also some females who play only for money they are known as dominatrix.

The levels of intensity needs the couple to follows some of the most required practices which along with the involving dominance and submission also includes a  range from the dominant ordering their “ slave ” around and ‘ forcing ’ them to perform certain activities, such as tied in the air, blindfolded, and whipped.

The distress or humiliation often includes the use of furniture or toilets, corporal punishment and may be forced depending on what the couple desires are. D and S relationships may also involve the degradation of the submissive partner where they may be treated as babies, dogs, or slaves, while the males might be subjected feminization. Sadism and masochism often goes hand-in-hand with domination and submission; dominant partners are known as sadists, and submissive are often masochists. Practices of bondage and discipline apply to satisfaction of any one of them. Sadists enjoy seeing their partners in pain or discomfort while masochists gain experience through the inflicted pain or discomfort.

However, there are many who refer to themselves as ‘switches ’. Whether in a romantic or sexual partnership, BDSM community always puts pressure on providing pleasure to any one of the party. The vast numbers of people who practice it following safe and legal measure are done unto the others. The use of safer language has become a very common practice whether be it in an emotionally or physically aroused situation. One may also make use of words that are generally used by people while sex to express feelings of pain or pleasure.

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Do I have a right to sexual dominance?

Wow, just followed a friend to a post, which (as an aside) stated ‘a dom using BDSM for sexual gain has no right being a Dom’… Now I know BDSM isn’t always about sex, but are we at the point where sex is seen as a bad thing?

Personally, when I perform acts that could be considered BDSM in a non-professional setting and without specificly non-sexual guidelines, I try to turn my partner on. In fact I still do even in a professional setting, though in that case I don’t expect the effort to be reciprocated. If said partner is not previously a sexual partner this can often lead to sexual ‘gains’ (although I don’t generally think about sex in terms of gaining/losing, and would hope they get at least as much from the situation as I do)

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So it would seem at least one viewpoint (and the OP did say it was just her point of view) would consider I had no right to ‘be’ a ‘Dom’

To be fair I guess I never really refer to myself as a Dom anyway, except in professional situations or where it’s the most suitable tickbox, but quite a few others do refer to me that way, and I’m not sure I’m comfortable with having my right to the title revoked purely because BDSM is usually sexual for me.

Is this a common view – has the community come to a place where people feel BDSM should never be seductive?

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I support the OP’s right to her opinion of course, and to be clear it was a journal entry and this point was not the focus of the post, but it always makes me wonder when someone’s opinion is that I should have less rights. Maybe the comment was out of context and intended to refer specifically to the situation she described, but I’d be interested to hear whether anyone shares this view.